Shaykh Rasoul Q & ASShaykh Rasoul Q & A
Sep 2

Need help

I am an 18-year-old boy studying A-Levels and living in Bangladesh. I was in a relationship for almost 2 years. About 22 days ago, my girlfriend’s family found out about our relationship after she was caught by them. Since then, I have tried many times to contact her family. She has two sisters, and I contacted both of them, but they said they couldn’t support us and eventually blocked me. I even asked my mother to try to speak with her mother, but her mother refused to listen to her. Somehow, I managed to communicate through her sisters that my mother wanted to speak with her mother. But her mother immediately refused and said that she would never allow her daughter—my girlfriend—to marry me. I don’t want to continue any haram relationship. That is why I have been praying all five daily prayers and asking Allah for help in every possible way. For the past 22 days, I have been fasting continuously. I haven’t missed a single fard, sunnah, or nafl prayer. But despite doing all of this, I haven’t seen any positive outcome yet. The situation is becoming extremely difficult because if my girlfriend repeatedly tells her parents that she wants to marry me, they may force her into a marriage against her wishes. Both my family and her family are Islamic and family-oriented. It’s not that I am poor or that my family is uneducated. Alhamdulillah, my family is well-off and well-educated compared to theirs. But right now, I feel completely lost and helpless. All I want is to marry her in a halal way. I don’t want to continue any kind of haram relationship with her. She loves me, and I love her, and we both genuinely want to marry each other, but neither of us seems to be able to do anything about the situation. Her parents simply refuse to listen to anything because we are in the same class—we are classmates, although we study at different institutions. I honestly don’t know what to do anymore. I feel completely lost. I am not even able to stay mentally and physically well because of this situation. What should I do now? I only want to marry her in a halal way, but it feels like every possible door is closed.
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