Jul 2
Assalamualaikum Sheikh I need ur answer please sheikh
Okay here’s the full story sheikh He decided to break things off (we are not in relationship)
But he promised he will fight for me, choose me, accepting me of who I am, and my background, and loves me when it’s easy and in difficult
I was betrayed a lot before sheikh someone promised me a nikkah but betrayed it at the ends
And fear of falling in love but he convinced me with that so I decided to face my fears
(His family wanted him to married with someone from his village)
Our nationalities are different sheikh and we talked in long distance
And suddenly he break thing off
Yaani he suddenly said I’m too much when I’m in difficult
He suddenly agreeing with his family when he said he is disagreeing cause Islam allowing marry from other nationalities too but suddenly he said that my background not suitable for him and his family and my family are always gonna be bad meanwhile I believe Allah can change my family to be better and Allah can change his family to accept me cause Allah has power of that and I’m being tawakkul
And he told me about his family too and from my point of views his family isn’t perfect either but I never shamed his family
I accepted his background too
and he promised to me he accept my background and my family
But he shamed that he’s gonna be embarrassed to have a family like my family
He promised to fight for me and talk about me to his family why he wants me to be his wife
But he gave up and he said those horrible words about me and my family and wallah I’m really hurt
I sacrificed my fear and being tawakkul
And he said those horrible words to me He also mentioned with him if I telling him about my struggles and my stories I’m not gonna being judged by him and he only wanna helped to calm me, so that’s why we both know each other’s stories and struggles but he judged me and decided to did that and said that to meI know it’s my fault that I should trust Allah only but I’m just a human sheikh and he promised to me I won’t being judged I was being kind to him nothing but kind supportive and helpful and I did it sincerely but it’s so hurtful for me to get this kinda treatment cause I’m being tawakkul to Allah so Allah can lead us to halal bc I’m in the very mature age Tell me if what he did is allowed in Islam or not ? And is it wrong for me to delay my forgiveness cause I’m in so deep pain? We r in distance but bc of my trust issues I don’t trust anyone easily and I gave him the power of trust but he betrayed my trust And I told him I will still helping him cause i promised to him I’ll help him and I don’t wanna betray my promise But for forgiveness I have to see him in person cause I need him to be real and mean it I couldn’t trust him anymore so I need him to be serious and sincere about it Walla I don’t wanna hate him I have no intention to hate him but I’m in so much pain bc of what he said and what he did to me And I’m fine being attacked with My dignity being mocked I’m fine and can take it But not my family cause I know people can change Allah can change people and I’m being tawakkul on that And it hurts me that someone I cared i trusted I loved said that my family will never change and it’s gonna make him embarrassed Tell me if what he did is zulm and he acted like a disbeliever and being arrogant of his family to me
Pending