A serious question

Walaikum Salam sister A man here...and no you don't need to obey man who is unjust ...Men are caretaker of women but don't go to a man knowing his not good if you have doubt about his character even a little don't have to go or obey him . Islam gives woman the right to choose you have to obey that's true but that's why choose a righteous husband..May Allah give you peace and guidance

May Allah make life easier for you. I know it is easy to say that one should have patience. However as far as i understand this I would say. Us going to heaven or not does not depend on any man's satisfaction it only depends on Allah. NO man or woman can enter jannah without Allah's mercy. So gender has nothing to do that. And Allah does not say you should obey THESE MEN, He says to obey the righteous men. A righteous father and husband who fulfil their duties towards you or fulfil MAJORITY of their duties towards you that is. As for your uncle, there is no harm in distancing yourself from him, Islam says to not break ties but even the Prophet distanced himself from those who hurt him. So try not to remain in one room with him, say Salam once and then leave. All these feelings and insecurities and these things that you dont understand, when you are in dua tell Allah directly not because he doesnt know but because your subconcious needs the comfort of saying it. Ask him directly to answer you and give you a sign. To make you understand. And the beauty of that answer will amaze you. Allah knows best.

Assalamualaikum, remember these things: Never think that Allah SWT hates you, he is the most merciful and the most compassionate. He loves you dearly, in fact, he puts everyone through hardship so that you could return to Him and repent or ask for guidance. What happened to you was absurd and we men have failed to take care of women. We men have been given the responsibility by Allah explicitly to take care of women and some of us have failed to do so; it’s not your mistake you were treated that way. It’s not that Allah has made women to suffer more, everyone goes through their own sufferings. Allah does not let us go through hardships that are beyond our limit. Talk to your trustworthy family member(s) and ask for their help and definitely ask guidance and help from Allah first and never doubt His plan because He is the best of planners, He definitely has something far better planned for you. Allah knows best.

WaAlaikum Assalam, Allah SWT knows our struggles don't worry. Allah doesn't hate like that. Just because something bad happened doesn't mean that He SWT hates us. He is the most merciful so we should ask him for ease. If someone truly loves Allah and He loves him back then they will face struggles because Allah wants you to always come returning to Him. Ever heard of: if you come to me walking I will come to you running? Hope this explained or Sheikhrasul might give an better explanation